Why do people gripe when a little girl’s ears are pierced?
31 October 2009 45 Responses
A Parent asks, My daughter is 10 mo old, she has pierced ears. Had them since she was 3 weeks old. My own mother pierced mine when I was only a few weeks old. People see my daughter and gripe because of her pierced ears. She’s my daughter, what’s it to them? I was told it doesn’t hurt the baby that young, well it didn’t seem to on my baby, she didn’t even flinch. So really, what’s the big deal, and why can’t they mind their own business?
My dr suggested the age for me to get them done, said they don’t have feeling in their ears that young and it heals faster because they don’t tug at them.
Oh and if she doesnt want them pierced when shes older, they will heal up.
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nobody knows how to mind their own business, you haven’t yet figured this out? Your right, your business not theirs, tell them to butt out.
Those are the same women who yell about me getting my boys circumcised. They really should mind their own business before one day I snap and then haul off and smack them
well, i have to admit that it’s kinda disturbing to me that a 3 week old baby would get pierced ears…
Personally, I don’t know if I’d do it at 3 weeks. But you’re right–it’s your business, and people should stay out of it.
its not so much the pain, but in my mind, and i dont ever speak my voice to those that pierce their childs ears, but why not wait until the child is old enough to make the decision of whether or not they want to modify their body…
I have no idea, but you do as you see fit. I had mine done as an adult and it didn’t hurt, btw. And if you really want to stir things up, ask these busybodies how many of them circumcised their sons–a lot worse than a couple little holes in the ears.
Because people have to make themselves feel better by making other people’s lives miserable. Maybe they’re jealous because they remembered getting their ear’s pierced at age 7 and it hurt like hell.
That’s why, darling. You keep doing what you do as a mom!
Because your daughter should have the choice to whether or not she wants holes in her ears.
I’ve never heard of anyone complaining over babies getting their ears pierced. People do it all the time, who cares really. Geez nowadays people are even getting their boys pierced!
because people are nosey and rude my daughters ears were peirced right away and if people would say anything i would just tell them well good thing shes mine and not yours huh your baby your decision better to do younger than wait and have them yanking on them
None of their business…
You’re right it is no one elses business but I personally waited until my daughters were old enough to make up their own minds about whether they wanted to get their ears pierced or not, rather than forcing it on them when they were to young to have their own opinions.
My daughter got her’s done at 6 weeks. There’s nothing wrong with it. It’s not abuse so don’t worry about it. You raise yours the way you see fit. I think they look cute.
Depends on the person I suppose.
Many people are concerned that they may get infected or she may swallow them if they accidentally become undone. Or that she may grab it and pull…some babies have a hard time letting go, especially when they are angry or hurt, which could cause damage.
Or some people could just think that maybe she won’t want her ears pierced when she gets older. You know teenagers=)
So I guess it really depends on the person…I’m not surprised they say stuff…people don’t know how to mind their own business when it comes to other people’s children.
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Just so you know, your ears will not heal after being peirced for a few year…let alone 12. My ears were peirced when I was 13, I stopped wearing earrings at 15 and I still have the holes.
I haven’t run into anyone that objected, I got my daughters ears pierced when she was 4 months old. I think it’s better to get them done early it’s hard to hold them still, and keep them from touching them when they are older. As you said it is your child, I don’t see where people would have a problem. I don’t regret my decision on getting my daughters done that young. The people I run into always compliment her on her earrings.
I agree that its your child & none of anyone’s business, however, I don’t agree that shooting metal thru a body part is painless. My gripe with people that do this to their kids is, their child didn’t get the choice to do this. It was just done to them. Maybe when the child is 15, she’ll be glad but she still didn’t get a say. Its not like a medical procedure that would save her life. I guess if you keep her piercings clean, it won’t be a big deal.
The thing with getting a childs ears pierced that young… well a lot of hairdressers or piercers wont do it because they consider it a form of child abuse. Would you give your baby a tattoo? No probably not right!!! Alot of people feel that when your child is old enough to really want their ears pierced then that’s when it’s ok.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. So if you’re ok with it then what others think and say shouldn’t bother you!
Yes, I do agree it is you decision as the parent. But as for the decision I have to disagree. I think the child should have the right to make that decision about the piercings. Because it is the child’s body not yours. They should be given that choice. But as I said before no one should gripe about it, because that is your child and decision.
I’m with you on this one. It is better to get their ears pierced when they are young so that they don’t pull on their ears to irritate them. They look so cute with pierced ears.
To anyone who thinks getting a little girl’s ears pierced is wrong: You obviously have too much time on your hands to be critical of others when you should be using that time looking at your own faults.
Your little girl is no doubt beautiful and the earrings are just an expression of femininity. Don’t mind the negative comments you hear. She’s your daughter and it’s your decision to make; not anyone else’s.
Well because people think that they know more than you. Look only you know what you want for your kid. It is kid of like all the drama that parents go through when they should think about if they want to circumcise their son or not. There are some people who have their opinions about it. I pierced my oldest daughters ears when she was a baby, and it may or may not hurt them but they forget about the pain as soon as it goes away. So just keep up with your parenting, and with your head high because there is nobody else that knows better than you OK.
Yes, better than having the end of your dick chopped off ! Lucky she’s a girl ! Only problem I have with it is if you have ringlet or drop type earings in they can catch on things and do some real damage.
Well, I don’t “gripe” when see it. I just think that this is something that is special to a girl, and that it is something to wait for like at age 14 or so, something to be proud of. If their done young, it’s just a given, and no big deal. I always also worry that a young child will end up somehow pulling out the earring and swallowing it too. I am old fashioned I guess, but I just feel like there aren’t many “special” things left in a young girls growing up and that this would be “special” down the road. However, don’t let what others feel get you upset. That’s why we are all different, and all have minds of our own. Don’t let others bring down your glory in doing something you feel is right, okay? I don’t think their judging you, just set in their own ways.
Honestly, and I’m not trying go be mean but this is one truth: Getting a baby’s ear pierced is a mark of low-class and various ethnic prefrences. I garantee you Wealthy families don’t rush out to pierce their newborn childrens ears.
It may not be our business but you put it on a public board to ask.
I was 50 when I got my ears pierced, and they hurt like hell. Then I had to use peroxide on them so they wouldn’t get infected. I guess babies are different and don’t feel pain as much as adults do. But since your daughter didn’t show any signs of pain, I guess that’s correct. Little boys who are circumcised don’t seem to have much pain either, but with adults it’s a different story.
You’re right. It is your child and not anyone’s business. Some people are just opposed to any kind of alteration of the body, whether it’s piercing, tattoos or dyeing the hair purple. Don’t pay any attention to them. Also, some people just like to complain about everything and put in their two cents worth.
they should mindtheir own business. you didnt do anything to hurt your child and you should try and ignore these women with nothing better to do.
ok i would not worry about it people are gay i think that u should eat them done early so that they dont mess with them and if some one says something to u just tell then that she is not there kid and that it has nothing to do with them if u get them done or not its ur say not any other persons as long as u are happy and if u girl dose not want them later in life then she can take them out so its not that big of a deal so i say go for it and dont worry about what they say
Hey Hun
I am having a little girl in a coouple of weeks and would love to get her ears pierced. Still ummiing and urring about it. The issue i have is that it is her body not mind and what if she doesnt want them done. If i wait she can make the choice for herself.
As for everyone else tell them to blow it out their bums. Everyone has an opion unfortantly and they think now that your a parent you have to listen. She is your child as long as she is looked after thats all that matters.
because you are making a life choice for someone. Maybe you should wait til she can decide for herself? Just a thought. I dont gripe about people piercing babies ears, but i do think children are not property, as in “she mine ill do what I want with her.”
This is really your choice to make and then your daughters when she is old enuf to decide herself…But a suggestion as to why people complain is that they are still thinking back to when there children got their ears pierced and it was done at a later age. These days they deem it safer then when were children. I had my ears pierced when I was ten by a actual doctor and still had problems with infections. I am sure your daughter looks cute with earrings and some people are just jealous of your adorable baby..
DOCTORS STATE TO WAIT UNTIL AFTER THE BABYS 2 WEEK SHOTS. I THINK ITS BETTER TO GET IT DONE WHEN THE CHILD IS YOUNG SO THEY DONT GO THROUGH THE PAIN WHEN THEY ARE OLDER.
Your doctor recommended the WRONG time to get her ears pierced and the fact that the place DID it with out a shot record says a LOT about them! WAL-MART REQUIRES a COPY of the SHOT RECORDS to see that an infant as recieved their SECOND SET of SHOTS (usually at 2, 4, and 4 months) before they will even CONSIDER doing it! It is SAFER that way!!! They require DTaP containing protection against tetanus!!!!
I asked the advice of many co workers, one said she didn’t get them until she was 25 and no to do it. I through that out the window. Another told me to wait until SHE could decide, like my mom did when we (my sister and me) were five. But A LOT of people told me to do it once I could (AFTER HER SECOND SET OF SHOTS) and I decided to. My mom also said she regretted allowing us to choose because not only did they become infected because we kept messing with them but it scared my sister and she acted like a BIG BABY about something that didn’t even HURT!!! Anyways my daughter got her shots when she was 4 months (a few months late because of family emergencies) and then I got her ears peirced at Wal-Mart. It caused NO PAIN, she only got really MAD because MOMMY was HOLDING her HEAD!!!
Also if the place you went to was ANY good, they did BOTH ears at the SAME TIME!
But if the place you went to did the at different times and didn’t require a shot record, please DO NOT recommend them to ANY friends because the SAFETY AND COMFORT of your baby and any other infant was NOT their TOP priority!!!!
As for it being a part of “low class” that is a load of crock! Wealthy people DO peirce their kids ears and even give them DIAMOND pacifiers (not on the sucking part, on the part outside their mouth)!
The ONLY thing I DON’T agree with is peircing a boy’s ears. Some boys NEVER want to peirce their ears and I have NEVER met a girl that DIDN’T want their ears peirced! In fact I grew up with a lot of jealous girls in my class because their mom’s wouldn’t allow it and gave them crappy clip ons or stick ons. They wanted pretty gold hearts (I personally like the gold hoops). I will circumsize my son (if I have a son) because my fiance is circumsize and he said that is what he did with his two older boys without a second thought! I left that decision up to my fiance and it didn’t take long to give me an answer! He told me it was up to me when we peirced our daughter’s ears and agreed that if we have a boy that he will get to decide for himself when he is older, so he can choose WHICH ear he wants peirced (I will NOT pay for both ears, both ears makes me think of girls and one ear boys).
And just like my mom, I pay the FIRST peircing and YOU pay for the REST! Except my sister’s DAD paid for her second ear peircing and her belly button! YUCK to the BELLY BUTTON!!!! Ears twice in the lobe is all I will do!!!!!
The most stupid thing I did about ear piercing was my OWN ears, I got a second piercing in my ears (above the other one on my earlobe) and then baught a cockatiel who would NOT leave them ALONE!!! NOW THAT HURT!!! I took EXTRA care of it not to become infected since he kept biting them!!!
You are absolutely right in that it’s your business and no one else’s. But for me personally, I look forward to the day my daughter comes to me and asks to pierce her ears. For me, it will be a wonderful memory we can create together.
so whats the big rush to pierce baby’s ears for in the first place
thats my big gripe over the whole thing
a baby doesn’t need ear rings period cute or not.
and as far as it being your child thats fine
seems the child gets no say so over you putting damage on
the young ears.
sounds like a weak excuse for someone that can’t wait
I guess the baby will be wearing makeup
and in beauty contests next
thats how it all starts
Well, here’s my story. I was born in Rome (Italy) and most Italian women back then did have their ears pierced (I don’t know if they do now). I wanted my ears pierced too but my mom was very wimpish about it, she wanted me to wait. Finally on my 5th Christmas I received the much awaited 18 kt. gold earrings. I was in heaven! I asked my mom to take me to have my ears pierced…she kept saying tomorrow, tomorrow.
Well, a few tomorrows later, I picked up my little jewellery box with the earrings in it, I took my younger sister by the hand and I crossed the street (it was a small, quiet street) to the school. The kindergarden teacher knew how to do it, and so she pierced our ears that day.
It did hurt a bit, and for a few days our ear lobes were sore and “warm”…I still wish my mom had had the courage to do it when we were younger.
I still have my baby earrings and I used them to have my own daughter’s ears pierced (when she was 6 months old). When my daughter outgrew them, I lent the earrings to my sister and she, in turn, used them for her daughter. She has returned the earrings to me; I have them tucked away safely.
Go ahead and do what you wish to do. You can’t make all of the people happy all of the time.
I don’t know why. I guess I personally wouldn’t do anything that was purely cosmetic to my children (ones that carry a risk, and yes, ear piercings can become infected and sore, also, uneven as they get older), unless they were making the educated choice themselves. That includes circumcision. My baby is cute enough as it is
What if she had a reaction to the earrings. I know most people don’t react to Gold or Silver, but what if she did.
My friends did their daughters, but I waited until my daughter asked for about two years. She didn’t cry when she got hers done at 5 yrs old. I feel they should be able to ask for them. They don’t heal.
But then again I had my son circumcised. And that was my decision people just can’t see it.
because it’s her ears and if she wants holes in them she will do it herself!
Same as circumcision – the child should be able to choose later if they want holes in their ears or the end of their penis ripped off.
Oh, and they won’t necessarily “heal up” later – I have a chronically infected ear lobe… and both holes are open and visible after only 2 years of wearing them and NOT wearing them for years.
I just have to say, personally, I’m not crazy about piercing infant’s ears… yes, I think it’s pretty and it definitely helps to identify that the baby is indeed a girl. However, my concern would be the baby accidentally getting caught by the earring and potentially damaging her earlobe.
That being said, I agree with you that it’s the parent’s decision and people should mind their own business! I would never voice my opinion to a parent like that. People have no boundaries these days!
Comparing ear piercing to tattoos and circumcision is ridiculous… piercing is not permanent and the holes will close up. Yes, it leaves a tiny scar, but it isn’t comparable to permanent ink stains or amputation. How exaggerated!
Well, I don’t give voice to my opinion about this in public, because it’s your kid, whatever, but since you put this on an open forum, I’ll state what I think. Piercing a baby’s ears is a stupid and frivolous thing to do. It’s more for the parent’s vanity than for any type of benefit for the child. Like someone else said, you wouldn’t get your baby a tattoo, so why put holes in their ears so you can put jewelery in it to feel better about *yourself*? But I’m one of those “crazy” people that also thinks that circumcising is wrong, and saved my son from that barbaric practice since I don’t think I have the right to alter anything on my child’s body without their permission.
Glad you brought this up.
Earrings look cute on little babies, but I don’t want my daughter to have them. My husband thinks that people won’t know she is a girl if she doesn’t have holes in her ears with sparkly diamonds or something. Duh….she is wearing PINK all over her body.
I have nothing against parents piercing babies ears, but I feel like my husband is griping at me for NOT wanting to pierce our daughter’s. The exact opposite of your dilemma.
Amazing that people say negative things to you about your daughter’s ears. It isn’t like you pierced her tongue.
One reason they are upset is because some religions consider ear piercing a sin.
Another reason is because people believe piercing ears stretches the ear lobe needlessly especially with dangly earings.
And last, piercing is one of thos personal decisions you should make for yourself. Sure it can heal itself but then again you can pierce her nipples, her vagina, and her belly button by that logic. Why draw a line at her ears?
The fact is you like it.
The fact is they don’t.
That is probably all there is to it.
Chances are they won’t heal when she gets older. Once they’ve been in about a year, the hole is pretty well permanent. It absolutly causes the baby pain at any age. Why do you think that doctors are now using numbing agents when doing circumcisions on infant boys? Children are capable of feeling pain just like adults.
People gripe because piercing should be a choice. You’ve taken that choice away from your daughter. She now has holes in her ears that she may or may not like as she gets older.
My mother had mine done when I was an infant. It’s taken me a while to fix the piercings. They were in the wrong spot as I grew and are full of scar tissue from being done with a gun and having poor quality jewelry in them (my mom got the studs from the hair-dressers, where she had them done)
Now, with all that said, I will pierce infants ears, simply because if thier parents insist on having them done, I would rather they come to me and have it done properly than go to the mall and risk their child’s health. Piercing guns can not be sterilized and can transmit disease (like Hep C) and infection. The studs they use are of low quality, and cause a lot of trauma to the tissue. Single use, sterile needles are the only thing which should be used to pierce any body part.
Because in may people’s view they ave no choice in the matter and therefore it should be done when they can make choices like that for themselvs.
In my view; if she’s female she’s probably gona get it done anyways. Not that big of deal anyway. Plus history (especially pertaiing to internatioal piratry) suggests that it might actually be good for a person’s eyesight.
I think a person should make the decision about piercing themselves. There is risk infection, risk of ear lobes being torn, risk of allergies to the earings and just added discomfort a little kid doesn’t need. You say they are too young to feel it–that is INCORRECT, even a fetus in the womb can feel pain. I have a daughter who asked for piercing when she was 10years old, and at age 12 decided to let them grow in and now she has scares on her ear lobes and wishes she never got them pierced in the first place.
Should be an individual choice.
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