Q&A: bad fathers day weekend with the hubby….?
Question by : So, my hubby and I just got in a fight and I dont know what to do about tomorrow. This all started when his mother called me to complain about the way I was treating his son, my stepson. I replied to her saying that I was not only disciplining him but that I was being consistent. She then called my hubby and talked who knows what about me and made my hubby upset. He got home that day after work and basically blamed me for the game the child plays. This kid is lazy and a liar. He has stollen my watch and my wedding ring and no one ever told him anything. I noticed this behavior from the time i met him. His father of course doesnt belive he is a bad kid, nor do i. But i do agree that he needs to be told this is wrong. This attitude is not acceptable. Last night my hubby and i made plans to go eat breakfast for fathers day and thats where we were going to give him his gift. My son made him a coffee mug. His son made him a clay figurine. Today, his aunt called and invited us over……….
his aunt invited us over and he told me that thats what we were going to do. I dont mind that he wants to see his family its his day but i do mind that he cancelled our plans as a family and not even considered my opinion. We are currently repainting our bathroom and living roon. He has made comments of how he wishes someone could help him, which made me feel useless. His aunt offered to help and he accepted. The next step was that they were going to decide on what color and they were going together to buy it..i felt excluded so i left the room. Now he is upset because he thinks i have a problem with his family, i dont its him that excludes me in any desicions he makes that upsets me….what to do about tomorrow? should i go my way and visit my dad or should i still go with him to his mothers
i do not treat my stepson differently. i am the one who takes care of him mainly because my husband works out of town. the only reason i mentions step son now is becasuse his mom and my husband have made it clear that i am only a step in his life and i should keep my distance leaving room for the real mother, who by the way doesnt give about the child. i was offended by this attitude but i gave in. now there is no respect from the child or my hubbys mother…i dont even know how to act around the child or anyone, i feel like everything i do is wrong and will be critized no matter what