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How do you deal with your moody TWEEN?

1 November 2009 11 Responses

A Parent asks, Ages 9-11…. Girl…. Moodswings, attitudes, and everything Nice and Sassy and inbeTWEEN….. What a Fun Time – well no not really!

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  • Wise Guy! said:


    Thank God I have a boy!

    I really don’t know if I could have dealt with a girl as well.

    Maybe God knew that when he gave me my son!

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  • Alison said:


    The best way is to connect with them heart wise and reason with them. Getting frustrated and having angry reactions will only make it worse. It can be fun if you take it as a positive challenge, but if you have a negative view of it, don’t expect things to go well.

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  • hottie said:


    well my mom just let me have my moodswings but when i was pissed off she just smacked me out of it and i was fine. try dicipline it worked for me!

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  • Jorry said:


    Empower them to resolve certain issue themselves. As they get older, they feel they have all the answers and the advice Mom and Dad offers is not as insightful as their peers. The attitude and mood swings with my “tween” have subsided since we placed value in his opinions.

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  • mama3 said:


    And here I thought it was just my girl that did that!! No actually, I think it’s just a mixture of peer pressure, growing into a fine young lady. (let’s hope) When she gets sassy, I don’t let her get away with it that’s for sure. Some of it I think could be her hormones getting ready for that “time of life” that all of us girls just enjoy so much! (yeah right!) Unfortunately, I don’t think there’s any real answer on how to deal with it. We just have to go through the motions and hope it all works out in the end.

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  • candice g said:


    My little 11 yr old daughter drives me crazy.!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She is so moody…Lazy …and mean! I am scared! What is she going to be like when she is 16! YIKES! I’ll take anything I can get also on how to handle this problem!

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  • Nancy P said:


    Just went through it and it was not fun!!! When my daughter was 9 she was so sweet in the summer and upon returning to school in Sept. started getting this cocky attitude (facial expressions were a big one with her). I went up to the school to meet her at the holiday fair that they had during school hours and I couldn’t believe it, but the attitude I was getting from my daughter at home, was the same way all the girls behaved toward one another in school. If that’s your daughter’s case, you have to tell her right off that you will not be disrespected in that way. When my daughter was 11 her body was going through so many changes and she was crying more than my 2 year old son. That was a tough time (and a sad time) for both of us because she was so confused with who she was. She was still playing with dolls and yet had crushes on boys. She didn’t know what was going on. Even when she gives you an attitude, sit with her quietly and explain to her that you know what she is going through, that you know how difficult a time it is for her right now, you will always be there for her, etc. I would usually have these talks with my daughter when I went in to say goodnight to her and we would both end up hugging eachother and crying (they almost always need a good cry at this stage in life) but in the morning she would feel a lot better. The attitude will eventually end and you will find that you and your daughter will really enjoy eachother. Always remember that children will treat you the way you treat them. If you talk to them as a person and respect them they will also respect you. You sound like a wonderful parent and I’m sure you will be just fine.

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  • momof3 said:


    My oldest daughter is 9(10 in October).Her moods go up and down.When she is miserable with her sister , brother or us, I send her to her room for a little alone time.(Not a time out although she does get those too when the attitude comes out!!)She’ll read or play…I does her good to be alone, to have her privacy.And it lets her simmer down!! We have a talk after and it seems to help.Also, we have mommy-daughter day or daddy-daughter day. It really helps to have that one on one time out of the house.
    It does get frustrating though!! And it’s not gonna change anytime soon! And I do think,”What is she going to be like at 15??”SCARY!!lol
    Good luck!!!

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  • Komeke said:


    My mom just gets pissed off for anything that doesn’t go her way so Its like im the mom and she is the daughter.

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  • Super-Kleen said:


    my parents dont deal with it, when i have a moment they just leave me alone till i chill out. or they try to help and make it worse

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  • empresscalls said:


    I know! I have a 9 and 13 year old girls.PMS starts early.Sometimes you have to ignore it and other times you have to say something.Pick your battles.

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