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A question for mothers of daughters?

18 January 2010 14 Responses

A Parent asks, I had a very strange experience the on Friday night.

I was at a party, and I overheard two women talking. Both are mothers of preteen girls. The one mother was saying how her daughter had been sent home from school for kicking a boy in the nuts. Apparently this is the third time it has happened. Both were laughing about it. She went on to say that she had taught her daughter to kick boys in the nuts, not only for self defence (which would of course be an acceptable reason), but also when boys simply annoy her.

I was shocked!

I then went online and found an article by a woman who wrote that she raised her three daughters to kick boys in the nuts as a means of empowerment. She actively encouraged them to do so.

Now I’m not suggesting that most mothers would do this, but obviously some do.

What do you think of their attitude?
Is it an acceptable way for a girl to feel empowered?

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  • Natasha said:


    that’s sick. i would never teach my daughter to do that. i am the mother of a girl and a boy. that is horrible. it also is assault. if this is her third offense if i was the parents of the boy she kicked i would press charges and then maybe this mother wouldn’t think it is so funny. there are other ways a girl/woman can feel empowered by going to school, getting a degree, getting a good job and being successful. by this girl doing that she is just going to grow up to be a mean old lady living alone because she can’t keep her feet to herself.

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  • Sara said:


    No, I think that’s horrible. As a way of self-defense (in an extreme situation) is the only way I find that behavior acceptable.

    What if we taught our little boys to pinch nipples??? That would be the equivalent!

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  • Sage B said:


    It’s teaching violence. The woman sounds very insecure with herself and life, and is trying to force a sense of power through to her daughter.

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  • Wrapped Up In Ribbons said:


    I never once kicked a boy in the nuts when I was little but I did have a habit in highschool of elbowing (I was and still am really short) my boyfriend (husband now) in the nuts when he would offend me. Still then I felt bad and had to give him big hugs afterwards… I think it’s crazy that moms would teach their daughters to do that. For self defence maybe but I would never teach my four year old to kick a boy in the nuts if they annoy her

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  • Brittaney said:


    Absolutely not! Don’t they know how extremely painful it is? These women are going to get their daughters killed! I have an infant daughter and she will learn just like a boy would that you do not hurt other people. Unless they are trying to hurt you. Kicking a boy in that area can lead to a permanent injury. These women are very ignorant and cruel. A young child should not think that it is okay to inflict pain on someone just because you can. Have they never loved a man? I would like to know what kind of father’s these girls have. Do these mother’s kick their husbands in the nuts? Maybe someone should so they can’t have anymore children! They are setting themselves up for something very bad. Assault charges are the first thing that comes to mind then the next thing I thought of was a little girl with a black eye cause she thought she was gonna bully a little boy (who happens to have a nice right hook.)

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  • silver said:


    omg no iv got 3 girls and 1 boy and if they ever ki ked him are any body in the privates they would be grounded thats why there so much badnes out there coming from young people and some say dont blame the parants a child learns more when there young than in there hole life i dont think its right i would never put my children up to be nasty to any 1 if they got a problem i would like them to come 2 me so i dont no every body is different im 26 and when i was growing up there was non of this

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  • Bunny said:


    I would never encourage my daughters to do that and would be horrified if they did (unless the boy was attacking her or forcing himself on her then by all means damage him permanently). I plan on making my daughters take a self-defense class or maybe Karate so they can protect themselves. I think all girls should be required to take self-defense class once they hit preteen years. Kicking a boy or man in the balls for no reason is not a sign of women’s empowerment. Those women are idiots.

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  • Andrea said:


    I am a mother of two girls, who are 7 and 14. I would never teach them to kick anybody, (Male OR female) unless they were in a life threatening situation or other extreme time when they needed to for the self defense of themselves or others.

    Personally I find those mothers absolutely disgusting and ridiculous – their attitude is obviously an awful one if they think that teaching their children to kick boys is a good thing. And no, I don’t think it’s a good way for a girl to feel empowered. There are better ways to help a girl feel good about being female than teaching her to kick boys. How about teaching them to mentally stick up for themselves, not teaching them to physically abuse others? That’s plain sick.

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  • ♥Fancy♥ said:


    That’s unreal. I don’t understand why she would want her daughter to hurt people just because they do or say something that annoys her. If he threatens her I can understand it, but not just when he’s annoying. It’s a completely unacceptable way for her to feel empowered. Imagine him just trying to flirt with her and her getting annoyed. If she kicked him hard enough, she could cause some serious damage. Besides that, if she isn’t acting in self defense and the police get involved she could be charged with assault.

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  • dramama35 said:


    I have one teenage girl at the age of 14 and another at age 11. As far a self defense goes, of course i understand that. But in plain public or at school it is unacceptable. My friend has a daughter who is very pretty and she is in 10th grade and guys are always snapping her bra and slapping her butt and she figures the right thing to do back is kick them in the nuts. I understand that is how some girls act but if one of my daughters kicked a boy in the privates for any reason other than self defencse and it happended often, she would be in pretty big trouble.

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  • Alix C. said:


    I have 3 daughters (ages 7, 5, and 2) and I don’t like that idea at all. I would never want my girls doing that!! I am all for empowering my daughters, but NOT like that. If my girls want to do martial arts or soemthing down the road I’d let them, but never in preparation for them to hurt anyone.

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  • shellski said:


    Not at all. That’s horrible and could difinitely lead to medical problems for the young boys concerned! I would tell the police about it and see what they say. I don’t have any idea if they could do anything with that sort of information, but I’d tell them anyway. If they can’t help, they could probably let you know who can.
    I have a son as well as a daughter and I tell you, if he ever got kicked there and didn’t highly deserve it, I think I’d go ballistic! It’s extremley irresponsible of these parents to be saying these sorts of things. I’d also tell the parents of any boys their daughters might possibly bump into. If the parents have a heads up, they might be able to do something about it. At the very least, tell their boys not to go anywhere near the girls.

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  • Tarkarri said:


    Self defence is one thing. Other than that i is assault and deserves to be treated as such.
    There is no justification for anyone to inflict pain on another.

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  • Meaty Babby OQs said:


    I think you should post an add on craigslist offering to testify in an assault case. mom needs to learn a lesson.

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