What is your opinion? Do you know where your teenager is at all times?
A Parent asks, Hi the reason I ask this,(and I am not blaming the parents in any way what so ever)On thursday 19th of April 2007 I brought the Herald Sun as I do everyday,and I read on page 12 that two 16 year old girls went missing for four days, the last time they were seen was on sunday 15th April 2007 at 9:30am, when they told there parents that they were going to Ringwood to go shopping,one of the fathers said that his daughter was happy when she left.On Monday I brought the paper as usual and on the front page,it read TRAGIC END FOR MISSING GIRLS,the two 16 year old girls were found dead in bushland in the Dandenong Rangers,they took there own lives…. I feel for the family,on one of the girls internet sites MY SPACE it read “LET STEPH N ME BE FREE” the girls only knew each other for 6 months,they were good friends,I send my deepest condolence to the family.I just want all parents to be aware of what has happen,so that we can learn from what has happened and take notice of the warning signs.
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my parents know where my brother’s and I are at all times. we have to call every 2 hours or my dad comes looking. or we are grounded when we get home.
I am a 20-year-old college student and when I stay at my mom’s house for breaks, I STILL call to let her know where I’m going to be if I spend more than a full night away from home. What I do at my school, such as parties, clubbing, gambling, etc. after class is my own deal, but I like to let her know where I am when I will spend extended amounts of time away from her so she won’t get concerned (if I go on vacation with a friend or something).
However, I feel that kids who are under 18 (or especially under 16) should let their parents know where they’re going to be after a certain time of night if they live with that parent all the time. It’s a safety thing.
I have ten children. Four of them are in their teens. I love them so much and I don’t allow them to have MySpace or anything like that. I make sure they know the dangers of the world. My kids are really open with me and we’re really close. I do keep a close eye on my kids. I know where they are after school and on the weekends. If they are going to a friend’s house, I call and talk to the mother and confirm it. It’s not an invasion of privacy or me being overprotective, it’s my way of showing my children I love them and I don’t want anything to happen to them.
I have a 23 about to be 24 yr old brother, a 19 about to be 20 yr old sister, me at 17, and my younger brother at 16. My oldest brother at 23 still has to check in with my parents on what he is doing. They don’t care what he does because he is grown and has a family of his own now but they just want to hear from him every now and again. With my older sister it is the same way. They don’t care what she does now that she is in college, as long as they hear from her. With me and my little brother as we became more active in sports in middle school they gave us cell phones so that we could text message every so many hours what we were doing. We had to do the same thing on the weekends when we went out with friends just to let them know where we were. And if we didn’t (and it was at a late hour) then we would get a call from one of them, basically stating that we needed to get our asses home and wouldn’t be able to go out for a while, and got our cell phones taken. They became more strict especially on my younger brother after he had his son at 14, he didn’t have a cell phone then and they had no idea where he was or what he had been doing until we found out his ex was pregnant. They have calmed down since then, but we both have a specified time to be in the house, a specified time we can leave the house in the morning (unless for school athletics) unless told other wise by our parents. I think that it is crucial to know where your teen is at all times. Because many teens will lie and say they are at someones house when they are actually at a party or what not. I respect the way my parents have raised me and my siblings as teenagers and hope to raise my kids the same way.
i am a teen n my parents always know whee i am.even if i go to my friends house or my sis wants 2 go 2 her we walk. n i have 2 call mymom when i get there…or if we r hanging out where i call mymom n she talked 2 the girls/guys parents just so she knows i am not lieing ..then mymom might drive by just 2 make sure i did not leave with out telling her. yea it feels weird but i feel prtected..as the myspace thing so my friend wa on a prade list n she lives on thesame block as mei figured if she is on it y aint i
My mom doesn’t know where I am a lot.
She’s the one usually gone.
in my opinion not not all the times i know ppl that tell there parents they go one place when they go another place
I’m 17 and my parents never know where I am… For example, last friday was 420 day, and I left the house at 7am before my mom was up and after my dad had left, and I returned home at 12am, after they were asleep, I didn’t have to call once and no questions were asked about where I’d been all day or who I was with or what I did…
Thats an average day for me, cept I usually leave for school around 8am and I usually come home for a snack after school before going out for the evening, oh and to get the car lol…
I have a midnight curfew and as long as I’m home by then they dont care where I am, if I want to stay out till 2 or 3am I have to call around 9, say I’m at a movie and I’m in the clear to be a few hours late, no further questions asked…
Its great for me because it means I know I have time for casual drug use and alcohol consumption as I please and if I am sober enough to pass off as sober at midnight (assuming my parents are even awake when I come home) then whatever I’ve done that night, they dont want to know… And its been that way since I was 15 and got into lots of trouble within a 2 week period, since then, they havent wanted to know…
I’m a mother of three beautiful girls (a set of twins aged 9 and my youngest is 6 this Saturday (28th April)) and for now I can say yes. But I wonder, worry and pray that when they get to the age of discovery and angst we’ll still be close enough for them to feel free to talk to me not just as a parent but as a friend. You can’t monitor your childrens every movement without getting a PI so spy on them, but if you have a good relationship with them you can avoid alot of problems. The easiest way to do this is to try and remember what being a teen felt like and all your insecurities, fears, trials etc., and trying to understand what your kids are going through.
Growing up I wasn’t very close to my mother, now I’m older and a parent myself I understand that much of what she did was just out of love for me and my kid brother, and that it was tough for her trying to raise two children on her own after my parents’ divorce, but then I resented her and many of the things I did were a reflection of my unhappiness. Maybe if she’d sensed that and made herself more approachable and emotionally accessible I could have avoided a lot of bad advice and costly mistakes.
That’s just my 2cents on the matter.
Back in 8th grade (1999). I had a friend commit suicide with his dad’s gun in the other room…..he didn’t show any signs of it and that is what really shocked everyone.
My mom knew everywhere I went and that was because I told her (checked in) as I felt if I did so,she give me more space for me to do stuff. I was trusted and I made sure I didn’t do anything bad. There was a few times my friends and I would sneak out of their house (her mom knew, but didn’t care) and go to McDonalds before it closed early and would go to a neighbor down the street’s house, where the boys we really hated, threw water baloons or shaved cream their lawn. Non-criminal, but funny stuff. (He deserved it!).
But, I was smart enough to really becareful who I was around and my surroundings.
It is really sad about that situation. I think parents need to pay a little more attention as that could be the last time they see their child, alive if not at all.
Yeah, they know where I am at all times, because, excepting school, I have not been anywhere for the past 2 months.
I definitely agree with a lot of these answers.
There are both sides of it. I think basically respecting each other enough to understand how important it is to make sure that you are at least safe and letting your family know where you are.
The world is so different now and there have to be different rules enforced than there used to be.
Now that I have 2 children, I even call and check on them all the time, I can only imagine how it will be when they are old enough.
My parents always knew where I was. If I was at my friends house and we went to their neighbors I had to phone. That being said, if I went shopping with a friend I would probably have to call every couple of hours and be home by an estimated time…. so if I wanted to go to some field and kill myself, I would have had time.
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