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Is It Normal For My Preteen Daughters To Masturbate Together?

18 October 2009 25 Responses

A Parent asks, I walked into my 11 and 9 year old in their rooms, touching themselves. They weren’t touching each other or anything. Each was in their own bed, fully concentrated in the task. I’ve heard sometimes girls experiment together, just doing it at the same time, without touching each other. Is it normal? I don’t know who to ask. What should I do?

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  • Sandra said:


    NO. 11 and 9 year olds should NOT be masturbating in the first place! Who on earth corrupted them to think like that? You need to sit down and talk to them or get them some help, that is wrong at THAT age.
    Omg, people actually think 9 yos masturbating is okay? Talk about morally bankrupt ew!

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  • geri said:


    Masturbating is a very normal and natural way for a human, at any age, to make themselves feel good. It is as simple as that. There is no morality issue involved, I highly doubt your kids have watched porn anywhere, or picked it up from other kids. They, the same as every other human on this planet, simply have found out that if that part of their body is stimulated they will get a reward. Please do not make them feel ashamed of themselves for this, they are not committing a crime or a sin. You should probably just tell them that although they are doing something that is pleasurable and acceptable, they might want to do it by themselves as it is an activity that should be kept private, and then just drop the subject until they choose to bring it up to you.

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  • lemontar said:


    I can understand an 11 year old masturbating, but not a 9 year old. And I can’t imagine them as sisters doing it. Then again, they could has such a deep connection that they just are experimenting together because they’re close. The 9 year old is too young by my opinion. It’s not NORMAL, but it’s not ABNORMAL. I suggest, just ask them. And teach them about sex, and all those things. Everyone says that the earlier that you tell thm, the more educated they are

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  • ~Emma~ said:


    I started developing at 9 so i could understand the 9 year old. I also understand the 11 year old. I was in 6th grade when i was 11 and my hormones were out of controll! Its normal for both of them to be masturbating… but not together. I think they should go to their rooms and do that. And what you should do:
    Well it depends on how you know about them masturbating together. Put additional details and ill edit.

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  • Taken By The Best<3 said:


    noo.
    i have 2 sisters.
    and we never did that.
    i know one of my sister started doing that when she was like 13? cus she liked to announce it to me 0.o
    they seem too young.
    btw. theres a 9 and 11 year old in my house. and i doubt they do that and if they did they wouldn’t do it “together”

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  • miss.mel said:


    i think it is normal to experiment with your body at 11 idk about 9. i don’t think it is normal for them to do it together. if i were you i would teach them it is not okay for other people to touch them in inappropriate ways down there and teach them privacy.

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  • Soon to be a mommy-due sept 19 said:


    They are Pre teens! Hormones are raging probably. Its not un- normal. But it isn’t appropriate. Maybe they need to get their own rooms.
    Edit- I dont think it is okay. But sadly it is normal.

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  • GlazedDo said:


    It’s fine that they are experimenting there body’s but i don’t think it is appropriate for them to be doing it together even know they aren’t touching each other, thats just my opinion though.

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  • E L I S E said:


    I can’t tell if your a troll or not… but if they weren’t touching/looking at eachother I wouldn’t send them to the psychologist just yet. But it isn’t normal.

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  • Angel Dumott Schunard said:


    i don’t find that normal at all…
    i actually find that disturbing.

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  • sчdиεч ♥'s jυsтιи вιεвεr said:


    Omg what a sight to see, but no definately not normal cant believe you had to think about that. put them in their own rooms!! gross

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  • happymum said:


    Oh good Lord. i hope your kidding but if not I don’t think its normal. At their ages I don’t think its normal alone though.

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  • LYNN in FL (suspended @#*%) said:


    I didn’t even know what that was till I was 16! I don’t think they should be doing it together. That’s just weird.

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  • Texas girl and happy wifey! said:


    Where would they learn to do something so mature for their ages? I would talk to them about it.

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  • ♥ Babygirl♥ Due♥12*24♥ said:


    no, thats not ok, they may do it to other people, and think its ok, but its not

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  • Shawnee said:


    Do not let some of these hateful comments get to you, your girls are only curious about their bodies and that is 100% natural. Even infants will fondle themselves, not only because they are discovering their parts but also because it is pleasurable. This is coming from someone who was menstruating and sexually mature, at least physically, at the age of 9. That is 4th grade btw. Just explain that you know what their bodies are going through, so they don’t feel uncomfortable talking with you about it.

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  • zombies ate my ńęìghbøř said:


    No it is not normal and what in the world does an 11 and 9 year old know about masturbating?

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  • Leah said:


    Why would they even know what that is yet? It isn’t normal.

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  • N1K0L3 said:


    I hope your a troll…

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  • ๑ಌஐಌ๑ BabyCakes ๑ಌஐಌ๑ said:


    Umm………..
    NO!

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  • Archi! said:


    yes. i love jacking off with my bros! its so fun. and hey atleast they arent having sex

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  • st. lunatics said:


    Oh thats wrong….
    11 & 9 They shouldn’t even know about any of that stuff hun….
    Try and get them to stop they are way to young.

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  • Mother of a amazing little boy! said:


    If they like it, let them do it.

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  • Terrie said:


    OMFG…. ANOTHER NON-KNOCKING PARENT
    FIRST ….KNOCK.

    Ok yeah its kinda young for real but why dont u knock and respect privacy? they prob never gonna do any more that what they are doing.
    there were 2 times my sis and i masturbated at the same time…each of us were in our bed…under the covers. I think I had started first..she must have heard me and started too. We DID NOT plan it…nor did we ever say anything that first time.

    the second time…kinda went the same way i think…only that time when it became obvious we had both finished…i heard a little voice say…”oh wow that was awsume” Silence filled the room for like three seconds…then we both laughed out loud. my sis and i never ever argued after that.

    our mom never new…and we never ever did anything more crazier..and we still laugh about it. now ok..we both were a little older…she was like 11 i was like 13?

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  • Jennifer said:


    I started at 9 but ive never done that with my sister it’s normal but I dont think together is a good thing

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