nasty preschool children,4 year old daughter,what should i do?
A Parent asks, hello, ive come on here to get an opinion(or two) on this situation because im not sure what to do.This is my only child in preschool, this was her first year,she’s never been before.
Firstly i want you to know katelyn is the usual four year old who will argue with another child over a toy or a chair or a bike but she is not a *nasty* child,she would never pick on a child or call them names or make them cry with mean words..i would never allow her to treat anyone like that and she has a kindness in her that wouldnt allow herself to anyway.
Once when i dropped her off at preschool i was early and two girls called her to play and they were playing chase around the play ground…i saw them head over out of site and i got curious so i thought i’d spy lol as soon as they were out of grown ups view they stopped and the first girl said to the second girl “am i your best friend” and the girl said “yea” then i watched my daughter say “and am i your best friend?” and the girl pushed her head against my childs head and pushed her back with force,then when my child didnt fall all the way the girl shoved her in the chest down to the dirt and stood over her yelling “your not my best friend i dont like you get lost”
my daughter just looked confused and dusted herself off and i yelled before i realised i was going to do it and the teacher said “we dont play like that here” (they didnt see it, i told them when they came to see what i yelled at” after that for a while my little girl said she didnt want to go to school because this girl hurt her when the teachers wern’t looking. Today,when i dropped my daughter off two different children were playing and my little girl tried to join in…she went down the slippery slide and said “owch” when she got to the bottom,she turned to the two girls and said “be careful on that slide its sharp at the bottom and one of the girls said “your not allowed on this equiptment,we dont like you get off and go away, my daughter looked confused and didnt say a thing then the girl scrunched up her face and said “get lost your naughty”
My little girl ended up sitting in the middle of the sand pit all alone playing with a cup of sand while about 7 other girls chased each other around on the other side of the play ground…i looked at my daughter and whet i wanted to do is smack the kids in the head and take my daughter home but obviously although it would have felt great it wouldnt have been the best thing to do lol….i ended up balling my eyes out all the way home.
she has also mentioned on a few occasions a particular boy who picks on her.I know some people say “kids will be kids” and i agree when it comes to fighting over toys and things but i feel like these things happening go beyond “kids will be kids” they are nasty brats.
my partner wants me to pull her out of that preschool,i’d love to but part of me feels like i cant rescue her from every bad situation like that because she will be starting real school soon and then she might think i can rescue her from any mean children,but i dont want to leave her there to be treated like that…..im not dishing out money each week to have my child treated like that….what would be the best way to handle this situation…think if it was you watching your baby be treted like that and with a devestated look on their face.
add** also she only goes to preschool one day per week,also…after the first child hurt my daughter i asked the teachers how my daughter treated other kids and they said she was fine towards all the children! she also gets picked on by children of friends…and i see the whole thing..most times she’s totally innocent..have i made her to kind and soft…can the other kids detect a pushover?