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What are the signs of sexual abuse in a toddler girl?

23 February 2010 6 Responses

A Parent asks, My daughter asked a family member it’s not right for someone to lick your private part right? The family member responded no has someone been doing that to you? She said yes and hesitated to say it was her dad. She has been to the doctor and nothing came out of the physical. I have noticed some changes in her behavior but not necessarily toward her dad, just more aggression and anger toward her brother and some bullying at school. Please shed some light on this. She has a therapy appointment next week. I just need to know the truth. Any suggestions?

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  • thesunwasshiningonthesea said:


    Sexual knowledge that’s not age appropriate is the first sign. Abused kids generally know that what’s being done is not right, but they’re usually threatened or coerced into not telling other people. Agression is another possible sign.

    You can call Child Protective Services on your own child, you know, and they will keep your information confidential. They will interview your child, have a child abuse therapist interview your child, check for sexually transmitted diseases, and see if there are indications of abuse that a regular doctor might miss.

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  • ☻☆ღ!Ts M3ღ☆☻ said:


    I think knowing that at a young age is kind of a way of saying something is not right. It seems it is likely thee is something going on.
    Have you confronted her dad about this? You might be able to catch the truth from his reaction also.
    The truth needs to come to light so that is it if happening it will STOP!!
    Make sure you dont miss that appointment they may be able to get her to talk about it a little more.
    Just because the doctor didnt catch anything does not mean its not happening
    i wish you and your daughter the best!!

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  • Amy R said:


    I would definitely bring her to a psychologist or counselor who is trained to see what has happened to her. If she has pointed out her dad, then there you go. Best thing you did was decide to take her to a therapist who will make her draw out things. Good luck.

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  • Myra said:


    A toddler girl should not be asking these questions, and though it may be hard for you, confront the father. If there hasn’t been penetration there is no way the doctor can prove through a physical. Trust your daughter. My grandfather was molesting my cousin when we were kids, when my aunt found out she pressed charges, later we found out that he had molested 4 other cousins, none through penetration, just touching. it was hard for the family to go through but my grandfather got help and serious time for his actions. Please help your daughter, god give you strength through these troubled times.

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  • a1cat.rm said:


    I would have her checked and I would have her brother checked too. If it is oral then there may be no outward signs of it other than behavior. I would take them to a doctor that specializes in suspected abuse of children. Good luck and you are in my Prayers.

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  • Bradley's MoM said:


    My sister went to a family member and asked the same questions. No one believed her. You need to take this seriously, if she can’t trust you to protect her she will go through her childhood being sexually abused and think no one cares. She will grow up to be a very messed up adult with severe issues. Get your daughter into the therapy appointments, sit down and talk to her. Let her know it’s okay to talk to you about these things and that she is not bad and she did nothing wrong.

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