For Mothers Of Premature Babies, Actually All Mothers!!??
A Parent asks, A friend of mine came over this morning and she told me this story.
This woman (a former friend of hers) had a premature baby at 34 weeks. He was born with clubfoot and had other difficulties from being premature. He was put into the Neo Natal Clinic (ICU).
That night (about 5 hours after this baby was born) this woman was in a nightclub, drinking and partying. WTF?
Her son is in intensive care and she is partying? I am so furious over this. My boy Nathaniel was in Intensive care for nearly all his first year, he was very ill. Born at 28 weeks and weighing in at 1 pound 8 ounces.
Never once in his first year, and especially not on the first night would you have found my Husband or myself in a nightclub.
Does this make anyone else blood boil? I felt physically ill when I heard.
I feel so sorry for those people who cannot have children, when idiots “mothers” do this.
I wish I could say I misheard my friends, but unfortunately knowing the person she was talking about, it would be true.
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I agree completely. Makes me sick to hear this.
Jazzy
I agree with you 110% if that happened to me I would do as you did. i’m in aw of just hearing that. Have a good new year. and hope you boy is healthy and safe.
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Back in the day, I could drink a man twice my size under the table without flinching…
And I got up and walked away from the bed I gave birth on, ready to go home.
But.
There’s no way I would’ve managed to combine the two.
Any chance your friend managed to get some of the facts of the story a bit wrong?
It’s unfortunate isnt’ it? My maternal gene was so strong! I can’t stand to be away from my kids! I don’t leave them with anyone except my mother… I feel bad for women who dont’ have that bond with their children, they are truely missing out on so much.. it’ s a feeling like no other.. Also, though, the children suffer.. they will never feel that true loving connection between mother an child.. so yes, my blood was boiling when i read your story. that woman’s place is there with her child, no matter what illnesses he may have, it is HER child.
It makes me sick too when our daughter was in the NICU we were in there everyday multiple times a day…I pumped milk and took it in to her.
Everyone handles stress differently has she always been like this. Maybe you should talk to her and ask how she’s feeling about it. It’s very sad though that she doesn’t seem concerend about her baby.
My youngest was born two months early and I could not stay over night at the hospital with her and it broke my heart. I went home and cried I could of never went out and partied at a club wtf was she thinking that so sad.
my first guess would be that her lifestyle is the REASON her baby is having difficulties…she was probably in those clubs doing/drinking/smoking everything like she was not pregnant to begin with.
don’t let it piss you off too much though… just keep being the good mom you are and pray that this boy is cared for by someone responsible… if you ever see her out doing this stuff, or your friend does – please call the authorities on her!!! CPS, family services… whatever your state calls it. it is not against the law for a parent to be seen in a night club, BUT if a child is suspected of being neglected or cared for by a parent who is under the influence of drugs/alcohol – that is illegal.
It seems to be the way she was dealing with her pain. Not that it’s a good way. She should have been at that hospital with her child.
But it sounds very strange that she was out 5 hour later…..you are bleeding pretty heavy and walking is another issue especially if you tore. Sounds like this story is a bit over exaggerated. Maybe it was 5 hours after she was released from the hospital, not after the baby was born.
But still, if that was me the only time I would have gone home was to take a shower, get something to eat and take care of my 12 year old, who would probably come back to the hospital with me on occasion to visit.
I agree with you, I would be too depressed to even think about partying. Sounds like that “mother” didn’t really care
I totally agree. I knew this women who would go to the bar while she was pregnant and would get wasted off paralizers when I confronted her she had the nerve to say “The milk is good for the baby.” I wanted to smack her upside the head for her unborn baby.
My girls ( identical twins) Were born at 32 weeks. ! was in the NICU for 2 weeks the other for a month. After they released my wife from the hospital she would be in the nicu from THe time she got up until I got off work. I would then stay with the girls. We also have 4 older children. This was the hardest time of our lives. How someone could be so irresponsible stupid and many other words I cant say is beyond me. The child should be taken away and given to someone who will Love it they way it deserves.
It is a bad situation but maybe drinking was the only way for her to deal with it, I am not condoning her actions but maybe she is having a hard time dealing.
My son was in the NICU for 2 weeks, and I certainly was in no shape to be in a club. My parents or my in-laws would come by the hospital to give my husband and I some time to go eat and catch a shower. Our son was never alone when he was in the hospital. Some people can’t give up the partying, and motherhood certainly won’t stop it either. She probably isn’t ready to be a mother, if those are her priorities.
It’s sad and irritating, but it doesn’t suprise me at all. There are a lot of women who shouldn’t be moms because of there immaturity, but they are. My oldest was in NICU for 2 days because of meconium and those were the hardest days ever, I was there as much as possiable. His father literally had to drag me away from him. My youngest was never in there, but she has hardly been away from me. She’s 7mths old and the longest she has been away from me is 3hrs. and that was for a job interview. I’m suppose to start work part-time the week of the 7th and I cried just thinking of not being around her all day long. Some people have what it takes to be excellent, loving parents and some have no business being parents and if that is true, she’s one that probably doesn’t have any business.
I think your freind might of maybe just maybe got the days wrong because at 34 weeks that’s still a pretty big baby i mean at least 3 pounds maybe a little more so it’s going to hurt she’s still going to bleed and be in pain. Honestly tho my freind did the same thing she had her son on a monday night by friday she was in the club..it’s annoying but it happends.
2 of my babes were in the NICU for some time…I was there as many hours they would let me…cant imagine going out and partying, wrong on so many levels!
That makes me so mad!! Woman need to take responsibility for there children..don’t have one unless you want one and willing to love them..they are defenseless they don’t know how to tell you how they feel..they need there mother for love when they are in the ICU!!
As they say any idot can be a parent but it takes a great person to be a mother or father.
Yes she may have found this to be the only way she knew how to handle the situation however with medical advances she would have had pre warning that he was going to have medical issues. That is of course if she had prenatal care, but it does cramp a clubbing life having to go to annoying doctors visits.
Fingers crossed she forgets she’s got a son and he will be given a chance at a family who really wants a child.
My son was born at 25 weeks and was in the NICU for 120 days…and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever been through in my life. I couldn’t imagine behaving this way. When my son was born, I cried for days and days, and then had to fight to stop crying so I could be there for him. It’s a shame that some people can’t have children, but those who seem not to need children can. I think though, to play devil’s advocate, that it’s important to remember that everyone deals with grief differently, and its not really fair to judge her for not dealing with it the same way we did. Do you know how she behaved later on…as time passed?
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