Parents would you have been annoyed over this?
A Parent asks, My 2 year old son was squabbling a bit with one of the kids at the play centre the other day. Nothing major they were just arguing over a toy. Anyway the other little boy threw the toy at my son and it hit hit my son on the head (not on purpose, it just landed there). My son then smacked the other little boy on the face, again, it wasn’t too hard.
Nothing dramatic right? Toddlers do stuff like this. So I stepped in immediately as my son went to hit the other child, I made my son apologise, placed him in a time out and warned him that if he hit again we would leave. I then apologised to the other child’s mother and checked the other little boy was ok.
The other mother went over to my son who was in time out, got in his face and told him “you are very naughty, you are a bad boy!”. She said it really nastily too. So I told her not to speak to my son like that, it had been dealt with and was over with.
She then told me I was raising a ‘spoilt brat’ who was going to be a criminal. Huh? Her child did actually get aggressive first!
So anyway, the next thing she goes to the desk and complains to them that my son was bullying the other kids! Aside from this one tiny thing he had been fine all morning! Management told me that if my son didn’t get in line we would have to leave. We left anyway, but can you believe this woman? Am I the only one who thinks she’s off her rocker?
Melissa, yes I did do that, but we still decided to leave. If they’re going to be that crazy over a simple toddler incident I figure we’re better off somewhere else!
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I worked in childcare before going into corrections. I think you handled the situation well. By failing to see her son’s part in the incident she’s doing him more harm then good. She’s placing total blame on your child, which makes her son think (maybe not now but in future incidents) that he’s blameless. Of the two children the one most likely to become a criminal sounds like her child. Not because he was aggressive and threw a toy, but because it doesn’t sound like he’ll ever learn that his actions have consequences. If at all possible I would stay away from future involvement is this woman and possibly the play center as well.
Oh yeah, I definitely think she’s off her rocker. She wants to ‘teach’ her son some manners, yet she doesn’t have any of her own.
You just need to Chris Brown that woman. Just kidding. Let it go and if it happens again you can go to management and tell them all of what happened. If they fail to accept both sides of the story then you dont want your son there.
You should have told the women that her son threw a toy at your son first…so, if your son is going to grow up to be a criminal, so is hers.
Second, you should have told management that the child hit your child first and demand that he is the one to be removed from the center.
Now, you might have done this but didn’t state it.
DON’T be afraid to speak up…don’t let them bully you especially when her snotty little brat was the true offender here lol.
I totally agree with you!! That’s insane!! It makes me mad just reading it. You never ever tell a child that hes bad. Especially if its not your own child. That was extremely uncalled for. Im sorry that happened. I guess the best thing you can do is just reassure your son that hes not a bad boy and that even though it wasn’t nice for him to hit it wasn’t nice for that other boy to throw either. I think that you handled that situation extremely well. Most parents would probably just have stopped the argument but you made him apologize and put him in time out. That was smart. I say two thumbs up to you! You’re doing a great job and Im sure you son will not be a criminal. Lol. Im also sure that woman’s son might grow up to be the kind of person who never takes responsibility for his actions thanks to his mother lol.
Your response was exactly what I would have done. Even apologising to the other mother. I do that. Where was her apology?
No. I think that she is just in another part of the park from the rest of us and probably does that to everyone.
At two years old, children don’t have the most developed verbal skills (as you know) so they communicate that they don’t like being hit in the head with a brick by crying or hitting back.
We know this. Hasn’t her child ever had any social interaction before? Put two or more toddlers together to ‘play’ and if they don’t like something – watch out.
The horrible thing about this situation is that it can eat away at you. And the fact that you always think of the really good comeback lines later when you’re at home….
Never apologize to the other parent. Too many think their kids do no wrong. Handle the problem between the kids and that’s it.
As for the centre, turn in a complaint about how she acted toward your son and do go back. He shouldn’t be out a fun place to play because this woman’s insane. The management will get sick of her complaining about other people’s kids and ask her to leave eventually.
I would of confronted the women, if I am there with my child and have taken care of disciplining him she had NO right to speak to your child that way.
I would still go back, don’t let her case you away.
Good for you, its a shame more people can’t be level headed about their children. yes, she’s off her rocker like so many other mothers these days, the world is gonna be full of spoilt brats like hers soon.
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