What do with with a immature 21 year old?
A Parent asks, Hello. I am 21 years old and I’m immature. Also, my divorced parents & step-parents irritate me. My dad is a dead beat with anger issues who married a selfish and tacky woman, my mother is extremely crazy (I love her..but i cant live with her) who married for security to an awful drunk who degrades women. What can I do to change? I don’t have confidence to go back to school and so right now I’m stuck. Everything is a chore. I’d rather sleep in bed all day. I can’t continue to live with my parents, it’s depressing. What do I need to do? My mom is offering college… but I left school because it was too much socially and academically (it was an art school). I really need to get away from family and start my life. Staying with family is holding me back even though my mom thinks its helping yet yells at me when I don’t have a plan. I’m in therapy, i’m working a little at my aunts store, and i’m going to the gym (which I’ve been skipping lately). I just dropped out of a summer class because it intimidated me and seemed like to much. I feel like a loser…
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strange, you feel like a looser?
gee whiz, maybe it’s because you are a looser!!!
you lay in bed whining all day and having no real income and not having anything. did you think that money was going to fall out of the sky and into your hand??? well, trust me, IT’S NOT GOING TO!!!
GET OFF YOUR A$$ AND GET A REAL JOB AND A PLACE OF YOUR OWN IF YOU DON’T LIKE IT. AND ABOVE ALL, STOP COMPLAINING AND SOUNDING LIKE A 10 YEAR OLD CRY BABY!!!
NO ONE MADE YOU A LOOSER BUT YOURSELF. if you want to improve yourself, do it!!!
wow sounds a lot like what I’ve been going through lately. Except part of my depression is because I haven’t started college yet. I think getting a job helped me and now I’m trying to sign up for 1 or 2 classes just to make me feel like I’m doing something with my life instead of just living with my mom. Definately just being productive helped a lot.
I kind of have the same problem..
I think about taking a small vacation sometimes to figure out what exactly I want.
If you can figure out what you want, you can work towards it. Make a list, what do you want? what do you think your future holds?
I wish my family had the money to send me to college but unfortunetly they dont do I try to learn everything I can on my own.
why not move out? like out of state? get some roommates and move out man. Thats what I wanna do. No sense in being stuck in the same rut you seem to be in. You need a life change, fuck therapy man.
You need a drastic life change, it will shape you, it will help you figure shit out.
Gotta be happy.
I know how you feel, like you’ve hit rock bottom and you’re still digging with no way out and no one to help you up.
I’m not going to tell you to do, as that is the only freedom you have is to choose.
First, get a job somewhere else. save up money and move out. Simple enough.
Second, take the college offer, get an education. Pick a college far away, move out.
Third, which is what I am in the process of, Join the military. I’m currently in the process of enrolling into the Air Force. It will get you into a new environment, motivate you, give you food, house, education, and employment. Get to see the world. When you get out, you’ll have plenty of self motivation, and hopefully you’ll be happy with yourself
Good luck, and remember, when you reach the end of your rope, tie a not in it and hang on!
Also, if you do decide to go in and see a recruiter, take a look at the link below and read it before you go in. Be prepared!
Some of those answers indicate that the question wasn’t read thoughtfully enough.
Fortunately your not the one who is immature.It’s those parents and their partners who seem to have that problem.So let them have it to themselves.
You don’t owe it to them , they’ve let you down.One consolation is the contact with your aunt ; see if you could move in with her until you get yourself sorted.You feel like a loser because those losers whom you are talking about want it that way.What do you want ?
Use the example they have set you to guide yourself from what you don’t want.
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